Making contact

Recently I was friended on Facebook by someone from my path, my younger cousin. We began to dialogue on Messenger, as we both were intrigued by how we had grown since the last contact we had together.  We reminisced (somewhat), but there was this feeling I was having, that she was reaching out for some answers to suppressed questions.

She was not interested in dialogue about the God that I write about, as this was a tainted topic from the learning that she adopted from her father. You see, our fathers grew up in a strict Mennonite family, and both of our fathers pledged, knowingly or unknowingly, that they would allow their children to find their own spiritual path.  While this may seem honorable to some people, it left both of us feeling confused in our youth about the existence of a god or a divine creator.

As we got into discussions about our family dynamics, and some of our own relationship struggles, we got real. We both found (or at least I did) that our common ground was how we were raised by our fathers, and their shortcomings in regards to relationships. Our fathers were not good examples of how to treat and/or have relationships with women.   

After dialoguing back and forth throughout the day, something dawned on me, we desire guidance from our earthly Father. 

What an incredible revelation! As I am the father of three beautiful daughters, they are watching my every move. I have failed miserably at being the example of a man that they should not only look up to but also guide them to what they should look for in a potential future partner.

In regards to my dialogue with my cousin, she triggered this revelation with this question, "You mean to tell me that you only had committed loving sex?" This was her response after I communicated to her that the youth of today have "just sex". She looked up to her older, handsome, and charming (placed for effect....lol) male cousins, and figured that we were playboys having "just sex". We failed as good examples of young men who would treat women with respect, and not look at women as sources of dopamine fixes.  

I write often about the incredible amount of programming that both men and women are being exposed to. If you are reading this on your handheld device, stop and meditate on the next thing I am about to say...

WE ARE ALL BEING MANIPULATED!  

Do I have your attention?

Please understand, that there is not one person that I know who has immunity to the manipulation that has been poured out on humanity. Since the 1950's as more and more televisions had been escorted into homes, the channeling of programming began. The controllers were able to manipulate the masses through any narrative they desired, by herd mentality. If resistance to the programming was apparent, the controllers would turn back on the dial until the agitation settled. Once the fringe minority could convince the majority that they overreacted to the propagated narrative, the controllers could once again introduce the desired programming.  

So to keep on track, what happened to the fathers that are worthy of being emulated?

The 20th century was amazing in regards to technological advancements. But due to these advancements, we have been losing our souls. The spirit of the dragon (greed and gluttony) has pulled fathers away from their families. As a result of all the luxuries that the world has to offer, chasing the dragon has become big business. It only took 2 generations of fathers chasing the dragon to obliterate any sign of a nuclear family.  In Western culture, it has become mainstream to have no fathers present, both physically and mentally.

Women were programmed that life outside of the home was required to live in this new world being carved into the mental landscape with bigger homes, better cars and trucks, not to mention fresh flowers on the table every other day.  To have these things of luxury women needed to get out of the home and get a job. Women, being nurturers by nature, were now seeing the stress and struggles of trying to juggle time for their husbands and children after the long days in their career choice. Too often, the husbands were pushed aside and had to wait for their wives to recharge.

Men began to retreat and looking for love and affection outside of the home became commonplace in the 60's and 70's. Husbands learned that in order to fulfill their fleshly desire they could cloud it with pornography, or worse yet adultery. Women felt unworthy of the images that the men were being exposed to, and men were experiencing the negative feedback from their wives. 
 
The programming is worse now than it has ever been. We are looking for perfection and all the red lights, I do not mean the red light district, I might add.  Our desires for the perfect life must be recognized for what it is, a sham, it doesn't exist. We will all fail and come short of perfection every time. Men will say things that get misconstrued, and women will react in an undesirable way. We are all being programmed to look for flaws. Don't settle, there is someone right for you, just have patience. I have fallen victim to this way of thinking, and realize that I must stop.

There is a saying, "You can't love others without first loving yourself"

.What does this mean exactly, loving yourself?

This is what it does not mean, putting up filtered selfies of yourself to prove that you are loving, good-looking, attractive (a little harsh, but the point is coming).  We are seeking the approval of others all the time, I know this very well, because I have often sought the approval of others before checking myself to understand my motivation. We all want to feel love, not do love.

The controllers of the images that you see on your handheld device have created a world that is designed to separate us, not connect us. But, I have 2500 followers and 5000 likes you argue.  We fail to connect with the people in our own circle of influence. Waiting for the notification bell for a "like" or "heart" is not making contact. 

At the start of this blog, I had a revelation.  I am not trying to create sympathy for fathers, but rather to empower us to be something that our daughters and sons look up to. We need to see the manipulation for what it is, and we need to set an example. 

I am working hard to remove myself from all the craziness that this world has to offer. I want to spread good energy. I want to spread love without expectation. I want to enjoy my life with a renewed understanding of others. I want to hold to the title of a vessel.

William John.

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