Relationship-Bliss

I do not write blogs for my gratification. I write because I want to connect with my readers. I want my readers to understand that no one is alone in life's struggles. Sometimes, I make the struggles about something personal that I am going through, and I choose to share because so many people are going through many of the same struggles. I want people to know that no one is perfect, and we all fall short of life’s expectations. The best counsel I ever received was from people who lived and survived the struggle. The struggles are real.

I want to speak on something very real in today's society: romantic relationships. Yes, I have struggled to maintain healthy, strong romantic relationships in my life. I have taken much of my understanding from our spiritual human condition, not from pseudo-science, which is being pushed on society and is messing up our minds. I try, but today's relationships are bombarded with a minefield of information and formulas for making relationship-bliss. Pick your flavour with all the latest relationship gurus on YouTube or follow a 12-step program from the latest best-selling book. I am doing my best to leave my past triggers behind and move forward without judgment of past wrongdoings, not only in myself but also in my partner. This isn't easy.

Modern romantic relationships are difficult. They are not difficult due to the chemistry two people share; it is the art of maintaining the chemistry that clouds the love buzz. Modern relationships are teetering on heavy life expectations while balancing work, family, and friends. Very few couples want to work through the struggles and think that it is easier to find "next" by swiping right. The challenge is that every relationship will have its share of struggles and hardships. In today's day and age, social media platforms and social programming have made the next relationship just a click away. It settles in the back of our mind that if this relationship does not work out, there is another one waiting. 

This is all by design, not to say that relationship struggles didn't happen in the past before the internet, it is more open and acceptable now. Polyamorous, LGBTQIA+, and gender confusion have mixed the mind's cranium with uncertain dismay. There is another issue: our human condition. Everyone has feelings of jealousy, betrayal, anxious thoughts and a desire to maintain a monogamous relationship. Are these a social construct or our deep human condition found within the spirit? 

What do I mean?

​In the book Brave New World by Aldous Huxley, the human condition is challenged by DHCs (Director of Humanity and Conditioning). Think of DHCs as our modern Social workers or, in the case of the book, our future Social Workers. The book takes place in the year 600AF (After Ford). It is a clever look at what society would look like if we removed love from our human condition. The idea is, “Everybody belongs to everyone else”. There is no monogamy, autonomy, or privacy. We are all part of a collective.

The main character, John Savage, is brought to London (the headquarters of the new world) from the Indian Reserve (author's words, not mine), where he encounters a beautiful woman named Lena. Lena has been conditioned not to fall in love and is confused by John's advancements.

​John struggles to understand the thinking of his appointed Alpha DHC Bernard and Lena in this new world. The Soma (drugs) keep society in confusion and away from the monogamous feelings of love. Social conditioning collides with the human condition of each character. It is a fascinating portrayal of what happens when monogamous love is removed from the equation.
 
I was first exposed to Brave New World in the late 80s after reading George Orwell’s 1984. The book is a much different look at the dystopian world many people expect to happen through the religious and political propaganda pelting the mainstream narrative. I must admit, Aldous Huxley “nailed it”, the book is by far a more accurate portrayal of the world the elitists are trying to develop. Don’t believe me? Read the book, watch the 3-hour movie on YouTube, or take part in the series on Peacock and be the judge.

Sexual desire has been amplified, and monogamous relationships have been polluted by books like Brave New World.  There is something else we must ask ourselves when diving into the rights and wrongs of relationship-bliss: Are the Holy books relevant literature in the days we live now?

For the religious zealots of the world, it is obvious and a resounding, “Yes, we can’t live harmoniously without the Holy books,” they argue. Books like Brave New World are a stain on society and need to be scrubbed from the shelves they once occupied. These books are filthy literature, they reason, and the reason that society is in spiritual chaos.  
 
I digress…

From the beginning of time, relationship bliss has always had the component of sexual desire. Unfortunately, when the bliss fades in today’s world, many people seek the dopamine fix through infidelity and swipe right. A throw-away society is what we’ve become, pleasure seekers, and dopamine creepers. Selfish desires, not selflessness by putting others needs before ourselves, rules western society.

Proponents of Brave New World theology understand what is being forged, a loveless society with every sexual desire in the palm of our hands, literally. It’s sad really… Like John Savage, we struggle with the balance of loving and living, relationship-bliss and till death do us part.

So, I will continue to write, especially when I see the cries for help on Facebook, or when I am stopped on the street by someone who reads my blogs and needs a hug.

By a vessel,
William John 

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